Clarify your Values

Clarify Your Values

Values can provide motivation. Ask yourself: is this really important to you? What really matters to you?  You may well find that what really matters does not reflect your life. If you do discover what truly matters how would doing this make a positive difference in your life? If we can link our new behaviour to something personally meaningful, we’re far more likely to do it! Many people try to motivate themselves through being harsh and critical of themselves and this does not work but as you will see through your studies you need to treat yourself with compassion and kindness.

Below are some common values.

Please read through the list and add whatever ones you wish and  write a letter next to each value, based on how important it is to you: V = very important, Q = quite important, and N = not important and then jot down what you really care about

1. Acceptance/self-acceptance: to be accepting of myself, others, life, etc.
2. Adventure: to be adventurous; to actively explore novel or stimulating experiences
3. Assertiveness: to respectfully stand up for my rights and request what I want
4. Authenticity: to be authentic, genuine, and real; to be true to myself
5. Caring/self-care: to be caring toward myself, others, the environment, etc.
6. Compassion/self-compassion: to act kindly toward myself and others in pain
7. Connection: to engage fully in whatever I’m doing and be fully present with others
8. Contribution and generosity: to contribute, give, help, assist, or share
9. Cooperation: to be cooperative and collaborative with others
10. Courage: to be courageous or brave; to persist in the face of fear, threat, or difficulty
11. Creativity: to be creative or innovative
12. Curiosity: to be curious, open-minded, and interested; to explore and discover
13. Encouragement: to encourage and reward behavior that I value in myself or others
14. Excitement: to seek, create, and engage in activities that are exciting or stimulating
15. Fairness and justice: to be fair and just to myself or others
16. Fitness: to maintain or improve or look after my physical and mental health
17. Flexibility: to adjust and adapt readily to changing circumstances
18. Freedom and independence: to choose how I live and help others do likewise
19. Friendliness: to be friendly, companionable, or agreeable toward others
20. Forgiveness/self-forgiveness: to be forgiving toward myself or others
21. Fun and humor: to be fun loving; to seek, create, and engage in fun-filled activities
22. Gratitude: to be grateful for and appreciative of myself, others, and life
23. Honesty: to be honest, truthful, and sincere with myself and others
24. Industry: to be industrious, hardworking, and dedicated
25. Intimacy: to open up, reveal, and share myself, emotionally or physically
26. Kindness: to be kind, considerate, nurturing, or caring toward myself or others
27. Love: to act lovingly or affectionately toward myself or others or to find people you can love
28. Learning:  to enhance your knowledge and skills
29. Mindfulness: to be open to, engaged in and curious about the present moment
30. Order: to be orderly,  organised and things in place
31. Persistence and commitment: to continue resolutely, despite problems or difficulties.
32. Respect/self-respect: to treat myself and others with care and consideration
33. Responsibility: to be responsible and accountable for my actions
34. Safety and protection: to secure, protect, or ensure my own safety or that of others
35. Sensuality and pleasure: to create or enjoy pleasurable and sensual experiences
36. Sexuality: to explore or express my sexuality
37. Skillfulness: to continually practice and improve my skills and apply myself fully
38. Supportiveness: to be supportive, helpful and available to myself or others
39. Trust: to be trustworthy; to be loyal, faithful, sincere, and reliable
40. Other: _______________________________________________________
41. Other: _______________________________________________________

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